In celebration of Mental Health Awareness Month, I’d like to share a short, personal story related to mental health and self-compassion.
I’ve always been extremely blessed with a loving family and amazing friends. They care for me deeply, and I know I can always count on them when I’m low in spirits. I also aspire to be a great friend and help them when they are in need. That’s why it took me by surprise when my friend told me he wanted me to treat myself kinder sometimes.
Truth be told, I was a bit confused at first. I know I held myself to higher standards than what my parents would expect of me. I didn’t want to let them or others down. But I didn’t notice that I was pushing myself a little too far. And when I failed to perform at my best, I would make myself feel worse with negative self-talk and how I could have done better.
Don’t get me wrong. Reflecting on my actions and thinking of ways to improve is a good thing. It was the negative self-talk that was a problem. Even though I had tried my best, I didn’t think it was “good enough”.
I think this was what my friend was referring to when he wanted me to be kind to myself. If my friend was in this situation, I’d tell them without hesitation that they did great. I’d try to reassure them that I know they gave it their all. There will always be room for improvement, but for now, they should be proud of how far they’ve come.
With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.
If I would treat my friend this way, why shouldn’t I do the same for myself? A little self-compassion can go a long way. It can fuel our motivation and push us towards healthy productivity. With this in mind, it’s time to nurture ourselves with love and care, starting by practicing self-compassion and improving our mental health.
